Do you believe in love at first sight?
And I'm not talking love parent/child. I'm talking the real thing. Some say love is a gift, something you can't control, just something that comes to you if you're lucky. Others say love is something based on trust, something that sort of comes along in a long time relationship.
Some cynicals claim love doesn't exist at all, it's just our hormones taking over from our self control. What do you think about it? Does love exist at all? Let's talk about love
Some cynicals claim love doesn't exist at all, it's just our hormones taking over from our self control. What do you think about it? Does love exist at all? Let's talk about love
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I believe in infatuation at first sight, but you have to get past a lot of stuff, especially the negative stuff, to really be in love. You have to get past those giddy butterflies in your stomach when you see them, get past your incessant chatter of about that person when they're not around, get over your listlessness when they're out of town, stop the pangs of jealousy you feel when he/she laughs at anyone else's jokes, rid yourself your need to always impress him or her, stop your attempts to "fix" or change all their faults, stop being overly self-conscious around them, and you have to stop placing him or her on a pedestal. Only when you're comfortable with who you are and who they really are again can you be in love. You can't see through all that in one glance. They say the eyes are the window to one's soul, but you can't see all the rooms inside by looking into them just once.
Originally posted by TigerWoods99
I dont. Yeah you can be infatuated by a person or attracted to them at first sight, but you cant love somebody just solely based on appearance...otherwise yeah you are shallow. I think you grow to love a person....and its not something where you can just say "Im going to fall in love with this girl/guy"...it just happens. Usually before you guys are in love you are friends, and it based among that friendship. You love someone for their inner being.
Perhaps you would say otherwise if you're "girlfriend" wasn't in a ****ing coma and could actually see you.
Originally posted by DoTheEvolution
Perhaps you would say otherwise if you're "girlfriend" wasn't in a ****ing coma and could actually see you.
Go away.
" Only love can break your heart..
try to be sure right from the start...."
" Love is a drug for me "
" What's love got ta do with it "
" Love potion No 9 "
" O solo Mio "
" Shall I compare thee to a summer's day...
thou art more beautiful & temperate than a rose..."
" Bah Humbug "
Originally posted by aquafire
So who are these quotable quoties from..
" Only love can break your heart..
try to be sure right from the start...."
" Love is a drug for me "
" What's love got ta do with it "
" Love potion No 9 "
" O solo Mio "
" Shall I compare thee to a summer's day...
thou art more beautiful & temperate than a rose..."
" Bah Humbug "
1) I don't know.
2) Brian Ferry
3) Tina Turner
4) some movie with Sandra Bullock
5) Verde? Shamed to say I don't know.
6) Shakespeare (my lover when she walks she treads the ground).
7) who knows.
Originally posted by der Kopf
1) I don't know.
2) Brian Ferry
3) Tina Turner
4) some movie with Sandra Bullock
5) Verde? Shamed to say I don't know.
6) Shakespeare (my lover when she walks she treads the ground).
7) who knows.
I think you got your numbering wrong
Love at first site? how about lust at first site
Originally posted by der Kopf
1) I don't know.
2) Brian Ferry
3) Tina Turner
4) some movie with Sandra Bullock
5) Verde? Shamed to say I don't know.
6) Shakespeare (my lover when she walks she treads the ground).
7) who knows.
1 ) Neil Young
4) Jerry lieber & Mike Stoller
5) Eduardo Di Capua & Giovanni Capurro
7) Ebbenizer Scrooge.... ( Dickens )
nobody would love me at first sight
Another key equation is chemistry. Often it boils down to just clicking with someone. You just happen to be on the same wavelength. I think this is pretty uncommon and most relationships require some work and a lot of compromising.
My biggest problem is while I may have it for someone, the feeling is not always mutual.
I called up my best friend after that first date and told him I just met my wife. He laughed of course, but we were engaged 6 months after that.
it should read:
Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of may
and summer's lease hath all to short a date
Sometime to hot the eye of heaven shines
and often is his gold complexion dimmed
And every fair from fair sometime declines
by chance or nature's changing course untrimm'd
But thy eternal summer shall not fade
nor lose posession of the fair thou ow'st
nor shall death brag thou wander'st in his shadow
when through eternal lines through time thou grow'st
So long as men can breathe and eyes can see
so long lives this, and this gives life to thee.
And, except for the first question mark I got all the punctuation contraction and capitalization wrong, but it's been a while. But as couplets go, the sonnets end better than they start:
For I have held thee fair and thought thee bright
who art as black as hell and dark as night!
Even Shakespeare's ideal lover has a less than favorable aspect at the end.
Originally posted by Matsu
That's the wrong shakespeare there Aquafire
Ooops .....I was quoting his lesser known brother.......
Brian Shakespeare...
'Twas indeed love at first sight.. When my eyes met the warm blue glow of the monitor, I knew the relationship would be one that would echo without dying through the ages... yada yada yada bada-bing bada-boom I'm done.
(Brian Shakespeare!! LOL!!)
Jimzip
Originally posted by Matsu
Even Shakespeare's ideal lover has a less than favorable aspect at the end.
I thought that sonnet was dedicated to the guy who paid for it. Am I wrong?
Note the last couplet is acually a non-too-subtle advertisement for Shakespeare himself.
So long as men can breathe and eyes can see
so long lives this, and this gives life to thee.
More on topic, I fell in love at first sight with a woman who later went mental and tried to ruin my life.
Not quite sure what this data point adds to the discussion, but there you go.
Originally posted by groverat
Yes, I'm certain that it happens all the time.
What do you see when you turn out the light?
Jeff