Thanks, I knew you were asking for clarification - sorry if it sounded like I was arguing!
I've never started up Home Sharing - the fact we are all on the same iCloud account, network,
and iTunes account seems to already do what I thought Home Sharing does, but,
from your description, I guess not.
I appreciate the suggestions, and I think I'll try them, if I can figure them out
(never been very technical, and I don't seem to 'learn' as fast as I...