[quote]Originally posted by poor taylor:
<strong>any friend worth having won't dick you over for his girl.
bros before hoes, is our philosophy.</strong><hr></blockquote>
<img src="graemlins/lol.gif" border="0" alt="[Laughing]" /> That's freakin' hilarious.
That said, I have to agree with 'cates. For the most part it's something everyone goes through, especially between the ages of 17-24. Those seem to be the years most guys get hooked / pw'd by "the light of their lives." The older guys get (at the time they get involved with someone), generally the less likely they are to stiff their best friends, though they'll certainly do it some in the beginning. "Behold - the power of vagina" as the say (Sorry Wisconsin, nothing trumps the Slippery Tunnel of Love, not even Cheese).
Anyway, the best way to deal with it is to see how your friend treats you over a period of time. For the first three months or so, you can expect standard "she is my life" behavior, but after that I wouldn't stand for it. Give him an ultimatum but not and either/or deal. Just say something like "hey, you know how much time you used to spend with me and how much you spend now...if you want the friendship to last you, better find a way to change things a little" and just leave it at that. Leave the ball in his court (even if his balls are in her hand).
Secondarily I also agree that if the girl happens to be a fun person to hang around, make the best of it. You never know, she could become a friend too and then one day when they break up, you're in like Flynn. Just kidding.
I actually had two different opportunities in my life to hook up with a friends GF after she left him (like some months after, not right away) but I couldn't do it. One guy even knew his ex wanted to date me and told me he wouldn't care, but I knew probably he would lose a little respect for me, so I bagged it. No woman is worth throwing away a good friend. An acquiantance or "buddy" from work, absolutely, but not a good friend.
[ 02-19-2002: Message edited by: Moogs ]</p>