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"Hi Matt. I don't know how to tell you this, but Stefanie was in a car accident. A drunk driver hit her and she was in the hospital for a very long time, even in a coma for some of the time. She can't get on the computer yet because she fractured both of her arms so she wouldn't be able to type. I'm sorry. She told me to tell you that she loves you and not to worry about her. I was going to tell you about this earlier, but I couldn't remember your e-mail address. I'll talk to you later"

Just got that. It's from her cousin. Stefanie is my girlfriend btw.

At first glance I thought she was going to tell me she was dead...

I had a feeling something was wrong too.

I'm just glad she's still here...
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post #2 of 66
The tone in letters or correspondances like that are always the worst. They always conjure that feeling in the pit of your stomach. I can sympathize man, she'll be ok...

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I know why I hate alcohol/drugs so much now.
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I was straight edge up until the time I turned 20 specifically because of things like this happening.

For those who don't know, straight edge is a lifelong commitment to no drugs, alcohol, cigarettes... and some take it so far as no pre-marital sex. While it is supposed to be lifelong, and my intentions at age 13 were to have it be so, I felt at age 20 I no longer needed it.

At any rate, I'd say it saved my life during my angst ridden teenage years. I can't recommend it enough Most cities, especially college towns, have a sXe community. Good people
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I have to say, Tiger, that the nature of that e-mail is very strange to me. Why, if Steph is your girlfriend, did you find out about it (seemingly) so long after it happened? Also, how far does she live from you? It sounds like quite a distance.

Incidentally, I'm glad she's still with us. Who knows, maybe the casts on her arms will make things more...interesting between the two of you for a little while. *wink*wink*nudge*nudge*

J/K
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She lives in NC.
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post #8 of 66
Her car accident will change her live, she will see the life from a different point of vue, putting the things at the right place. If you love her you should visit het at the hospital : she would know what is important and what is not essential.
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[quote]Originally posted by CosmoNut:
<strong>I have to say, Tiger, that the nature of that e-mail is very strange to me. Why, if Steph is your girlfriend, did you find out about it (seemingly) so long after it happened? Also, how far does she live from you? It sounds like quite a distance.

Incidentally, I'm glad she's still with us. Who knows, maybe the casts on her arms will make things more...interesting between the two of you for a little while. *wink*wink*nudge*nudge*

J/K </strong><hr></blockquote>

I have to agree on both counts. It does seem strange you were told apparently so long after the event. I'd want to be told as soon as possible so I could be with her. I'm surprised Stefanie didn't tell her cousin your phone number or email address after she came out of the coma.
post #10 of 66
I'm happy your gf will make it. Recieving a phone call at work from my sister telling me that her 16 year old son (my nephew) died the night before from a hit and run drunk driver will always remain in my memory...

All the best to her and yourself. Yeah, and drop everything and see her now!
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post #11 of 66
Man, sorry to here that. I too hate drugs and alcohol and this is one of the reasons.
post #12 of 66
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That's the tough part, I would do what all of you said and pack my bags right now. I wanted to visit her about a month ago but she won't let me.

Maybe this will put things in perspective and she'll let me be there for her. If now isn't the time, when is it?

I have a lot of different emotions running through my head right now....angry, mad, sad, frustrated....but thankful.

Yeah, you see we hadn't talked for aquite a while (almost a month), and she's done this before to me where she hasn't come on or whatever so we could talk, so I honestly figured that's all it was. However, a few weeks ago I got this weird feeling that something was wrong (almost thought she wasn't alive seriously). Of course I always worry when she tells me I shouldn't, but I decided I'd better contact her cousin to make sure things were ok. Then I get that back...

I wish I was contacted sooner & maybe have her cousin or somebody call me, but maybe it's a good thing I wasn't right after it happened. I would've been scared to death.
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post #13 of 66
That's some ****ed up shit. I'm going to call Dana right now and tell her how much I love her.

Keep your head up.
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post #14 of 66
[quote] I'm surprised Stefanie didn't tell her cousin your phone number or email address after she came out of the coma.<hr></blockquote>

I'm surprised no one knows your phone number since you're going out with her...3 years?

[quote]Originally posted by TigerWoods99:
That's the tough part, I would do what all of you said and pack my bags right now. I wanted to visit her about a month ago but she won't let me.<hr></blockquote>

Why would she not let you visit her? She loves you.
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post #15 of 66
[quote]Originally posted by macfenian:
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Why would she not let you visit her? She loves you.</strong><hr></blockquote>

That's what i've always been wondering.
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[quote]Originally posted by EmAn:
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That's what i've always been wondering.</strong><hr></blockquote>

Great minds think alike mate.

Plus my name is Eric too. It means "the sole ruler" you know?
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post #17 of 66
The relation between Stephanie and Tiger are a real mystery <img src="confused.gif" border="0">
post #18 of 66
With all due respect and sincerity Tiger, something just doesn't seem right there, man.

She hadn't talked to you in a month, no one said to themselves, "Gee, maybe *Tiger* should know about this. He is her boyfriend," she doesn't want you to see her, and it doesn't help that she lives that far away. Hmm.

I'm thinking you need to be a bit more assertive regarding where you stand with that, or I see bad things happening between the two of you.

Sorry, I didn't mean to give you relationship advice.
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post #19 of 66
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You guys are right, and they do know my phone number. Could've called me anytime.

I'm glad you guys see things the way I do. I've been trying to tell her the same thing for a long time. I'm just greeted with replies of "It's not the right time" blah blah blah. Actually I'm wrong saying she's my girlfriend now, because I broke up with her a little while ago. SHe's still my baby and I love her more than anything, still plan on being with her forever.

I just can't stand for that. It's like....I'm being pushed on the back-burner. Me, I would always go out of my way to show her that I love her more than anything. I just don't know...
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2 and a half years about (January 16,2000 is the day we started going out).
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post #21 of 66
[quote]Originally posted by macfenian:
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It means "the sole ruler" you know?</strong><hr></blockquote>

Really? I didn't know that.
post #22 of 66
Makes me glad I asked/told my "boss" I wasn't coming on on Friday and drove back to Chicago to see my wife today.
post #23 of 66
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I e-mailed her cousin and she still hasn't replied. Gee, I guess this is what I get.
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post #24 of 66
No phone there?
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[quote]Originally posted by TigerWoods99:
<strong>I e-mailed her cousin and she still hasn't replied. Gee, I guess this is what I get.</strong><hr></blockquote>

That really is ****ed up. Something definately isn't right...
post #26 of 66
Being someone looking in from the outside, Tiger, my guess is that you are getting jerked around.

[quote] I wanted to visit her about a month ago but she won't let me.
Yeah, you see we hadn't talked for aquite a while (almost a month)<hr></blockquote>

If you have your timeline right...then this doesn't make sense:
[quote]she was in the hospital for a very long time, even in a coma for some of the time. She can't get on the computer yet because she fractured both of her arms so she wouldn't be able to type.<hr></blockquote>

I would assume, based on experience of a kid getting hit by a car and being in a coma..that she was in the hospital far longer than a month, if she was in one.

I really think this girl is just pulling your strings...if someone was to do that to me, I would dump them.

[quote]and she's done this before to me where she hasn't come on or whatever so we could talk<hr></blockquote>

There you go, that's your answer. She's stringing you along and made up this story of being in a coma and in the hospital. If I'm wrong, then so be it and I'll apologize...but until you prove that she actually was, then I'll be under the assumption that she is psycho.

I'll dig up something for you to read...based on personal experience..about something along this line...
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post #27 of 66
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I agree with you...but come on man. Nobody is making up stories about being in a coma or anything....
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post #28 of 66
[quote]Originally posted by Powerdoc:
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Hmmm, perhaps, but i have seen so much idiotics comportements in my life, that i would not bet my hand on this .
And there is necessary a phone in her room, so there is no reason why you could not call her.</strong><hr></blockquote>
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[quote]Originally posted by TigerWoods99:
<strong>I agree with you...but come on man. Nobody is making up stories about being in a coma or anything....</strong><hr></blockquote>

You're dealing with a woman man. Get with the program.

The others have pointed it out to me. Sounds like she's giving you the brush off. I hope not, I hope she did get hit by a car and can't type. No wait I mean not that. Just that ... well that didn't come out right. Okay kidding aside it does seem a bit odd.

One way or the other you'll have to get something of the full story from her. I've been jerk around by girls too. They make up all kinds of stuff. The good thing is that they grow out of it.

Good luck. I have to drive back to Ann Arbor now.
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[quote]Originally posted by TigerWoods99:
<strong>I agree with you...but come on man. Nobody is making up stories about being in a coma or anything....</strong><hr></blockquote>

You never know...
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[quote]Originally posted by TigerWoods99:
I agree with you...but come on man. Nobody is making up stories about being in a coma or anything....<hr></blockquote>

And you know this how?

Oh yeah...an email
[quote]Just got that. It's from her cousin<hr></blockquote>

Have you met this "cousin"? It's interesting that they don't have your phone number...so impersonal to send an email.

So why don't you call her??

If it was me and I couldn't drop everything right then, I would at least call.

Come on, don't tell me you don't have a little bit of doubt in you?
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post #32 of 66
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They do have my phone number. Her cousin lives like down the street from her or something and yeah.

How should I call when she has casts on both her arms? If she can't type on a computer she's not gonna be able to talk on a phone.
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And of course I have doubt. That's why I dumped heer.
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[quote]Originally posted by TigerWoods99:
They do have my phone number. Her cousin lives like down the street from her or something and yeah.

How should I call when she has casts on both her arms? If she can't type on a computer she's not gonna be able to talk on a phone.<hr></blockquote>

You never did answer me...did you meet this cousin? And have you actually met this girl you call your GF?

someone can dial for her and she can put the phone between shoulder and head, or they could hold it for her while she says a quick hello...

And I asked you why YOU don't call her?

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Yes to all your questions.

Reason for not calling her? She told me not to.
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[quote]Originally posted by TigerWoods99:
Reason for not calling her? She told me not to.<hr></blockquote>


And why not? If you 2 were bf/gf, I would imagine that you could basically call anytime.

And especially now that she "was in a coma" and all that BS...
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[quote]Originally posted by TigerWoods99:
<strong>Yes to all your questions.

Reason for not calling her? She told me not to.</strong><hr></blockquote>

You care about her, right? Call her and tell her even though she told you not to call you were worried about her so you called. If she doesn't like it she's not worth it.
post #38 of 66
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I agree with you on everything, but do you really think theyd make something like that up? Seriously.

I dont get her and Im not going to stand the things she does, but Im not going to expect something like that to be "made up"

I'll call her tomorrow and see.
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post #39 of 66
Tiger (may I call you Tiger?), it's been my experience (not 100%, but enough to know) that people - men AND women - in relationships are capable of the most devious, underhanded, full-of-shit headgames and treachery ever to be known.



Of course, the opposite holds true as well. In many cases.

But it hurts to get yanked and played with (figuritively, of course...literally, it's kinda fun...heehee).

But seriously. It's kinda sad, but I've learned to "sleep with one eye open" regarding certain people, certain types of people, certain relationships, etc.

I take NOTHING for granted.

I've had horrible, horrible lies and things told directly to my face.

Do what you feel you must.

But also, step back and analyze everything with a more detached, objective eye. Protect yourself. Don't let yourself be used or messed with.

No woman (or guy, depending on your gender or preference) is worth the heartache, agony, anger, sleeplessness, sick-stomach-feeling, etc. that comes with being played, lied-to, etc.

TONS of fish in the sea. And most of them are probably really good. It just so happens the bad ones are really, really bad and will **** with your heart and mind if given half a chance.

Reading through this thread, some of this stuff just sounds really suspect and shaky at best, you know?
post #40 of 66
Tiger, didn't you have a long thread a while back about someone messing with your AOL IM account and your phone or something?

I agree with cosmonut and pscates. In fact, if you're on the level here, it sounds to me like you've gotten yourself tangled up with a real live psychopath! I highly recommend this book: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1572304510/qid%3D918606296/sr%3D1-3/102-2005748-1784951" target="_blank">Without Conscience</a>. It's an eye-opener. And I bet nails the head on whoever it is that's fücking with you (sounds to me like it's your "girlfriend").
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