What I HATE is when I look up a word and the dictionary says: "Both accepted."
Examples: benefitted/benefited; ambience/ambiance
Why can't they take a stand? Why are they so lily-livered that just because SO many people spell something incorrectly, the incorrect spelling suddenly becomes acceptable. Grrrr.

I find this dilemma highly annoying. Why? Well, for example, I wrote a fairly scathing letter to my boss a few years ago that included the word "benefitted". I had looked it up, the dictionary waffled, refused to make an effing commitment, said both benefitted and benefited were acceptable. I chose the double "t" version, and discovered later that my boss spelled it 'benefited', so he undoubtedly thought I had spelled the word incorrectly. *sigh*

There are actually quite a few of these words, though I can only think of the above two at the moment.
I always used to have trouble with the "r" problem in words like offered, referred, suffered, etc. I *shouldn't* have had the problem, but I never trusted myself with them. I must have looked up the word "offered" 250 times over the course of time. Even now, I feel a certain discomfort as I look at it, though I am *sure* I've spelled it correctly. eek.
Let's see - allegedly; illegible; eligible; obsess; illegal;
accommodate; and a ton of others.

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Spelling bee word I missed in grade school = quack.
