Originally Posted by Mystic
You have an apple and an orange. You want to always refer to an orange as an apple. I do not object. You then want ME to always refer to an orange as an apple. I object. An orange is not an apple.
The issue is not what YOU call it, or what I call it, or what canucklehead calls it.
The issue is the government, employers, hospitals, banks and schools. And they had better treat the gay permanent relationship the same as the old-fashioned kind of permanent relationship.
I'll give you just one example of why this is important. Suppose my wife (God forbid) passes out. I rush her to the emergency room. I check her in, the doctor looks at her, monitors her heart, and says: "She needs emergency surgery". I say, "OK. I'll sign the form."
Now let's take the "other" case. It also begins with a woman passing out, but now she's brought into the hospital by her girlfriend/life partner/civil unionist/orange. They get to the emergency room and the nurse says, "who are you?" So "orange" says, "I'm her life partner". So the nurse says, "Hmmm, OK. I'll just write down that you found her. Does she have medical insurance?" Anyway, the doctors examine her, and ask Orange, "you're her friend, right? Do you have the phone number of a family member?" So she says, "I'm her life partner, she would want you to tell me!" So the doctor says, "Hospital policy is that we only discuss her condition with next of kin. Do you have her parents' phone number?"
But Orange and the patient don't just live together. They went to a particularly liberal priest who married them, but knowing that this has not force in the state of California, they also made a contract that lists essentially all the regular things that straight couples have. So now Orange says, "We have a contract that gives me power of attorney in situations like this". So the doctor says, "Hey, don't give this to me, I am not a lawyer. Give this to the nurse at the desk, and the hospital lawyer will look at it in the morning. For now, I need her parents' phone number, because there's a big decision to make."
Is this sufficiently oranges-to-oranges for you? BTW: If you think this is far-fetched, it's not. Conversations like this actually take place lots of times, and the general situation, of having to put your spouse in the hospital and sign for some medical treatment when they're incapacitated,
that awaits all of us. The only way out is to be so incapacitated by the time that happens, that it will be left to your children.