my ex has cancer...

_ alliance __ alliance _
Posted:
in General Discussion edited January 2014
she just told me...

apparently shes had it fer the past 4 months, and is goin through chemo right now...

shes only 21, but has a rare form of cancer and they dont even know the cause of it...

i dunno why im sharing this here...

argh... <img src="graemlins/hmmm.gif" border="0" alt="[Hmmm]" />

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  • Reply 1 of 10
    a10t2a10t2 Posts: 191member
    Sorry, dude. I lost a grandmother to cancer last year, so I know more or less what you're going through. And why not share here? I know we're all behind you.
  • Reply 2 of 10
    kestralkestral Posts: 308member
    My condolesences to you and your ex. Can't even begin to imagine how I would feel in her position, sounds like she's handling it well.



    One thing to keep in mind - I remember when I was a kid, say 15 years ago, if you had any form of cancer at all, it was 100% guaranteed that there was nothing you can do.



    You should do a Google search because this statistic is true - I think someting like 86+% of cancer is managable if not outright curable. Tell her to think positive thoughts, have faith, and continue to live life to her fullest as best as she can!
  • Reply 3 of 10
    logan calelogan cale Posts: 1,281member
    Sorry.
  • Reply 4 of 10
    _ alliance __ alliance _ Posts: 2,070member
    [quote]Originally posted by Kestral:

    <strong>My condolesences to you and your ex. Can't even begin to imagine how I would feel in her position, sounds like she's handling it well.



    One thing to keep in mind - I remember when I was a kid, say 15 years ago, if you had any form of cancer at all, it was 100% guaranteed that there was nothing you can do.



    You should do a Google search because this statistic is true - I think someting like 86+% of cancer is managable if not outright curable. Tell her to think positive thoughts, have faith, and continue to live life to her fullest as best as she can!</strong><hr></blockquote>



    yeah, shes getting treatment here in houston at the MD Anderson medical center, which has very good treatment, so i know shes getting the best care.

    i havent talked to her in months, and then she starts talkin to me on the computer and mentions she has cancer, just out of nowhere--like she didnt want me to know...

    oh well...

    sometimes life just jumps into perspective, eh?
  • Reply 5 of 10
    ghost_user_nameghost_user_name Posts: 22,667member
    They almost never know what "caused" the cancer (unless it's lung and even then...). I'd bet it's never just one thing.





    Tell her I hope her treatment goes well.
  • Reply 6 of 10
    janejane Posts: 68member
    There is no cure to cancer; people are simply on remission. There is nothing wrong in preparing to die; think about it she will meet God. What is sad that she is very young and she had barely the time to live and how she will die in the hands of people that care more about the disease than about her. Just stand by her, even though she is your ex she will appreciate the time you will spend with her. For now on every minute she is awake becomes precious. Hopefully she won't be in pain (or not too much). Good luck to both of you.
  • Reply 7 of 10
    matsumatsu Posts: 6,558member
    Gives new meaning to the term ex, huh?



    Sorry, but it's the internet, my first reaction is always sardonic, and you know I thought about censoring myself, but then I figured I might as well just use it to ask a few questions. Did you break up amicably? I'm not sure that that ever happens, even when both of you want it, it at least means you won't be quite so amicable any more. Do either of you still have feelings for the other? If the worst happens, are you going to feel guilty for thoughts you might have had before she got sick? Do you think that 'comforting' might get confused with 'romancing?' For either of you? I don't know anything about you two, but there is the possibility for a lot of confusion here.



    I think that's a reason you might have posted this here (for the benefit of anonymous a$$holes whose first instinct is to make snarky remarks, like me )



    Sh!t, I don't know what to say. People get really fond of "everything for a reason, destiny, and God" type rhetoric. I don't buy it. I think they spew it cause they don't know what to say, and are afraid they'll look dumb if they don't say anything, or they'll look like jerks if they do say something unexpected. They can always fall back on old stand-bys about god and perserverance. That way they don't have to listen to anything you've said, they can just answer, feel good about themselves, and go on with life.



    She chose to talk to you. Seems to me that she wants you to know. Listen to her. But remember, the sick aren't saints, they're not better or worse than when they were well. Maybe she trusts you and wants to share with you. Maybe she still loves you and just wants to get you near. Maybe some part of her loves and/or hates you -- both will do -- and wants to use this to punish you. Only you can tell.



    God bless you both. May you meet him later rather than sooner.
  • Reply 8 of 10
    mac the forkmac the fork Posts: 722member
    I wish your ex well, and good luck to you as well. I can't give you a story about my grandmother dying of cancer, since she didn't.



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  • Reply 9 of 10
    ghost_user_nameghost_user_name Posts: 22,667member
    [quote]Originally posted by _ alliance _:

    <strong>



    yeah, shes getting treatment here in houston at the MD Anderson medical center, which has very good treatment, so i know shes getting the best care.</strong><hr></blockquote>



    I'm applying for a job there. They do have good cancer treatment there. I'm sure it't the top in that area of the country and maybe as good as anywhere else.
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