so i'm going to be proposing soon... and I know an online forum is a silly place to be soliciting advice, but what do I have to lose, right? First off, I know who I will be buying the band and stones through... family friends are wonderful. So my big question is this: How did all you married folk out there afford it? loans? dilligent saving? lottery? I figure it'll run between 3 and 5... kind of a lot for someone trying to find their career. Thanks in advance!