If so, why?? My theory is that people who are afraid to die are so because they think it will hurt.. For me, dying will answer some questions. Is there a heaven or hell? Does a person have a soul or are we just a biological machine?
Pfffft.. I dont remember the last time I was happy with my life...
Just Happy, sure now and then....
Just becuase I cant say I was rich or "great with the ladies" doesnt mean my life sucked...
Heck, just cracking my back in the morning is all I need to make me happy...
life is 99% crap... thats just the way it is...
You have to find pleasure in the small things, when I look back on my life... the view sucks, but some of the little things I "did" or experienced made it all worth it... those things make me happy with my life...
OK, you can all now go "Awwwh..." - that just makes you feel all warm inside"...
<strong>You have to find pleasure in the small things, when I look back on my life... the view sucks, but some of the little things I "did" or experienced made it all worth it... make me happy with my life...</strong><hr></blockquote>
actually, that is what I was getting at. I really think that these things matter more then getting a wife and having kids... Probably not the most popular opinion... but thats the wat I feel
Edit: Appifanny(sp?) just like EmAn!! (small things-one liners...) seriously, without EmAn's "customary" posts, I dont know what AI would be like...
Edit: also, I really think having a wife and kids is also VERY important, but that just makes "all the small things" (I hate B182) THAT MUCH MORE IMPortant (sorry about caps...)
- I will be afraid of the pain before death should it present itself.
- I will be afraid of not having lived all of my life.
Right now I'm more worried about what I suspect are panic attacks. Or maybe they're just extremely bad dreams. Whatever happens, it is rather terrible.
I'm not afraid of death in terms of what it will mean to me? However, when I think about my 20 month old and what my death would mean to her, then death scares me.
My dad died when I was 18 and I can't imagine how kids younger than 18 feel when a parent or sibling dies. Death is fine as long as it doesn't come to early.
People should be allowed to live long enough to become great grandparents .
Not really scared of dying itself, but the details about HOW sometimes cross my mind.
Like most, if I had it my way, I'll be in a bed, surrounded by friends and family and be a very old and fulfilled man who did everything he wanted to in life.
Not next week while coming out of a 7-11 and getting shot by some 14 punk undergoing a gang initiation rite.
Just don't want to go in a violent manner, or suffer. That's all.
Death itself does not frighten me, perhaps that is because i haven't thought very much about death. What scares me is dying before i have lived myself to the fullest.
I'm not afraid of the actual "event" that will kill me. I'm scared to death though of dying and leaving my wife and daughter behind.
I've had a lot of death in my family in the last 2 years, and I've seen what it's done to everyone. I am constantly being reminded that I should be enjoying every day as much as I can.
When I contemplate my own death, it's funny, I really don't think of myself too much at all, I only think of what life will be like for my wife, daughter, and the rest of my family. I'm thinking that I'll have done all right if I make it to see my grandkids graduate from college.
Really though, it's not something that enters my mind too often. These are just the things that enter my mind when I'm asked about it. We've got a lot of life insurance, so if something happens to one of us, we'll won't have any financial troubles thrown on top of everything else.
Control what you can, don't worry about what you can't.
<strong>Like most, if I had it my way, I'll be in a bed, surrounded by friends and family and be a very old and fulfilled man who did everything he wanted to in life.</strong><hr></blockquote>
I was with my grandmother when she died, and then my mother. Both knew several hours before that they were going to die. The only emotion that they showed was fear, pure and simple.
They were both religious, and had full lives with families, etc. I think this idea of accepting death after a long and fulfilling life is a myth. When it comes right down to it, you're scared. Most of us just don't think about it very much, because it seems so distant. But when you're faced with it in the immediate future, it's just scary.
Yeah, I done got me one foot in the grave, baby! A buddy of mine was kind enough to point out the silver little hairs in my temple and sideburns area yesterday. She seemed to get a kick out of it, but the humor was lost on me.
You're right, BRussel. I spent a lot of time with my Grandma right before she passed away last year. My daughter was 8 months old at the time, and every time my Grandma saw her, she would just cry.
It was really hard to see. She afraid to go, afaid that this little girl she loved so much was going to grow up and have no memory whatsoever of her.
It's easy to sit here today and say that as long as you had a happy life, you can accept death.
I think it's a different story all together when you're actually hours away from your own death. I know there won't be a moment ever that I'll be ready to say goodbye to everyone I love.
*ahem*
On a lighter note, pscates, you old sonofabitch, I get bugged by my hairdresser all the time about this little white/grey patch right at the top of my head. It grows every time my daughter wakes me up at 3 am.
I can't imagine how big it'll be when I get to be your age...
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Not as much as I am concerned it will be the last thing I ever experience...
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Just Happy, sure now and then....
Just becuase I cant say I was rich or "great with the ladies" doesnt mean my life sucked...
Heck, just cracking my back in the morning is all I need to make me happy...
life is 99% crap... thats just the way it is...
You have to find pleasure in the small things, when I look back on my life... the view sucks, but some of the little things I "did" or experienced made it all worth it... those things make me happy with my life...
OK, you can all now go "Awwwh..." - that just makes you feel all warm inside"...
E PLURIBUS UNIX
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<strong>You have to find pleasure in the small things, when I look back on my life... the view sucks, but some of the little things I "did" or experienced made it all worth it... make me happy with my life...</strong><hr></blockquote>
actually, that is what I was getting at. I really think that these things matter more then getting a wife and having kids... Probably not the most popular opinion... but thats the wat I feel
Edit: Appifanny(sp?) just like EmAn!! (small things-one liners...) seriously, without EmAn's "customary" posts, I dont know what AI would be like...
Edit: also, I really think having a wife and kids is also VERY important, but that just makes "all the small things" (I hate B182) THAT MUCH MORE IMPortant (sorry about caps...)
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I like life, I like seeing the world. I like people.
If I die, it would hurt my loved ones a lot. I also want to raise a family so death would prohibit that.
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When I am an old man I won't be afraid of death. <img src="graemlins/smokin.gif" border="0" alt="[Chilling]" />
- I will be afraid of not having lived all of my life.
Right now I'm more worried about what I suspect are panic attacks. Or maybe they're just extremely bad dreams. Whatever happens, it is rather terrible.
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Edit: Appifanny(sp?) just like EmAn!! (small things-one liners...) seriously, without EmAn's "customary" posts, I dont know what AI would be like...
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Of course AI would be very different without me. One line posts would not exist and the boards would be full of huge posts and that isn't cool.
But I'm not too afraid of death. I'm more afraid of other people dying around me...how selfish of me...
That doesn't mean I'm going to be doing dumb things in the face of death though.
My dad died when I was 18 and I can't imagine how kids younger than 18 feel when a parent or sibling dies. Death is fine as long as it doesn't come to early.
People should be allowed to live long enough to become great grandparents .
If I ruled the world....
MSKR
I was told a few weeks ago that I have a form of cancer, and that it will kill me sometime - could be this year, could be when I'm 112.
I thought perhaps that'd make a difference to my thoughts about death, but to be honest, I still don't care.
Too busy getting on with the here and now to concern myself with the then and how.
Like most, if I had it my way, I'll be in a bed, surrounded by friends and family and be a very old and fulfilled man who did everything he wanted to in life.
Not next week while coming out of a 7-11 and getting shot by some 14 punk undergoing a gang initiation rite.
Just don't want to go in a violent manner, or suffer. That's all.
I've had a lot of death in my family in the last 2 years, and I've seen what it's done to everyone. I am constantly being reminded that I should be enjoying every day as much as I can.
When I contemplate my own death, it's funny, I really don't think of myself too much at all, I only think of what life will be like for my wife, daughter, and the rest of my family. I'm thinking that I'll have done all right if I make it to see my grandkids graduate from college.
Really though, it's not something that enters my mind too often. These are just the things that enter my mind when I'm asked about it. We've got a lot of life insurance, so if something happens to one of us, we'll won't have any financial troubles thrown on top of everything else.
Control what you can, don't worry about what you can't.
<strong>Like most, if I had it my way, I'll be in a bed, surrounded by friends and family and be a very old and fulfilled man who did everything he wanted to in life.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Well, <a href="http://forums.appleinsider.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=6&t=000506" target="_blank">not long</a> to go now, huh?
They were both religious, and had full lives with families, etc. I think this idea of accepting death after a long and fulfilling life is a myth. When it comes right down to it, you're scared. Most of us just don't think about it very much, because it seems so distant. But when you're faced with it in the immediate future, it's just scary.
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Well, <a href="http://forums.appleinsider.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=6&t=000506" target="_blank">not long</a> to go now, huh? </strong><hr></blockquote>
YOW! Rack one up for Belle!
Yeah, I done got me one foot in the grave, baby! A buddy of mine was kind enough to point out the silver little hairs in my temple and sideburns area yesterday. She seemed to get a kick out of it, but the humor was lost on me.
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It was really hard to see. She afraid to go, afaid that this little girl she loved so much was going to grow up and have no memory whatsoever of her.
It's easy to sit here today and say that as long as you had a happy life, you can accept death.
I think it's a different story all together when you're actually hours away from your own death. I know there won't be a moment ever that I'll be ready to say goodbye to everyone I love.
*ahem*
On a lighter note, pscates, you old sonofabitch, I get bugged by my hairdresser all the time about this little white/grey patch right at the top of my head. It grows every time my daughter wakes me up at 3 am.
I can't imagine how big it'll be when I get to be your age...