In the marriage case the guy broke up with his wife then went to meet up with his online sweety and that sweety couldn't believe what an idiot this guy was for taking it all seriously. . .
Poor guy. I feel sorry for him.
I think she led him on. Not a very nice thing to do.
Sorry, it's cheating any way you slice it. Especially if you venture into the realm of letting the person tell you where to put your hands, etc. etc. If it's only talk I'd say it's definitely unhealthy for your other relationship (in most cases anyway), but maybe not "cheating" per se.
I mean, you're just having thoughts! - no personal contact.
I'm reminded of a famous proverb:
Watch your thoughts; they become your actions.
Watch your actions; they become your habits.
Watch your habits; they become your character.
If you would be ashamed at all to share these thoughts and actions with your "real" significant other, it's cheating. What have you to hide from your "real" significant other? torifile is spot on.
If you are thinking about being with someone else, regardless of how you act on those thoughts, why are you even with the person you are with in the first place?
Matthew 5:27-28: "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery'; but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." ~ Jesus
If you would be ashamed at all to share these thoughts and actions with your "real" significant other, it's cheating. What have you to hide from your "real" significant other? torifile is spot on.
If you are thinking about being with someone else, regardless of how you act on those thoughts, why are you even with the person you are with in the first place?
Brad is right. The thing to worry about is not whether it is cheating, but rather, what the hell is wrong with your current relationship that has you even pondering it?
Don't get involved with a relationship if you're not going to follow through.
If you are thinking about being with someone else, regardless of how you act on those thoughts, why are you even with the person you are with in the first place?
Yes it's cheating. If you're worried about getting "caught" doing it by your significant other, you've violated your trust with him/her. [/B]
Bingo.
Cheating==Violation of trust.
If you have the kind of relationship where your partner would not be offended, and you could even tell that you had a cyber with a stranger and have them laugh about it, then it's definitely not cheating.
I think the better question for this thread would be "Do you think cyber sex should be considered cheating in a relationship?" because the question "Is cyber sex cheating?" is like asking "Is cable included with the rent?". It varies from case to case.
That's exactly what I was getting at. Cheating in a more general sense is any violation of trust. Cheat on a test, you violated the examiner's trust, etc. You get the idea....
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Originally posted by pfflam
if one is doing it to reach into another person's mind and caress their labia with glistening phonemes . . . then it is another story entirely
Originally posted by pfflam
"and now my zipper is slowly loosening my throbbing meat rocket . . . "
I put on my robe and wizard hat.
but it's my post of the month.
as for cyber sex, it's cheating.
Originally posted by BR
I put on my robe and wizard hat.
So it was YOU!
Originally posted by alcimedes
i doubt many people will get that
I think it should be shared.
Originally posted by pfflam
In the marriage case the guy broke up with his wife then went to meet up with his online sweety and that sweety couldn't believe what an idiot this guy was for taking it all seriously. . .
Poor guy. I feel sorry for him.
I think she led him on. Not a very nice thing to do.
(god that was lame)
12 say it's cheating.
3 say it's not.
Wow!
Originally posted by Carol A
I mean, you're just having thoughts! - no personal contact.
I'm reminded of a famous proverb:
Watch your thoughts; they become your actions.
Watch your actions; they become your habits.
Watch your habits; they become your character.
If you would be ashamed at all to share these thoughts and actions with your "real" significant other, it's cheating. What have you to hide from your "real" significant other? torifile is spot on.
If you are thinking about being with someone else, regardless of how you act on those thoughts, why are you even with the person you are with in the first place?
Of course, this applies to women also.
Originally posted by Brad
I'm reminded of a famous proverb:
Watch your thoughts; they become your actions.
Watch your actions; they become your habits.
Watch your habits; they become your character.
If you would be ashamed at all to share these thoughts and actions with your "real" significant other, it's cheating. What have you to hide from your "real" significant other? torifile is spot on.
If you are thinking about being with someone else, regardless of how you act on those thoughts, why are you even with the person you are with in the first place?
My opinion
Don't get involved with a relationship if you're not going to follow through.
Originally posted by Brad
If you are thinking about being with someone else, regardless of how you act on those thoughts, why are you even with the person you are with in the first place?
Are you talking to me ???
I'm 'single' at the moment.
Broke up with my SO awhile back.
He wanted to get married.
I didn't.
Originally posted by torifile
Yes it's cheating. If you're worried about getting "caught" doing it by your significant other, you've violated your trust with him/her. [/B]
Bingo.
Cheating==Violation of trust.
If you have the kind of relationship where your partner would not be offended, and you could even tell that you had a cyber with a stranger and have them laugh about it, then it's definitely not cheating.
Originally posted by FormerLurker
Bingo.
Cheating==Violation of trust.
That's exactly what I was getting at. Cheating in a more general sense is any violation of trust. Cheat on a test, you violated the examiner's trust, etc. You get the idea....