Ok to call someone after 1.5yrs?
So I was reminded of a girl I used to know and like in high school. We used to hang out but I was too much of a pussy to ever make a move and so she eventually started going out with somebody else.
Well I hadn't seen or talked to her since then which was probably a year and a half...maybe 2 years. I was reminded of her today and so asked a mutual friend is she was still alive or whatever and got her cell number.
So I want to call her now, but what do I say? Should I even call her? I think I will because I'd love to talk to her again, but I'm not sure if it falls into the creepy category or not. We never really ended talking, just slowly stopped, but it was always on good terms, so it's the only awkward thing is the long period of time.
I'm thinking maybe try and text message first to initiate talking.
Well I hadn't seen or talked to her since then which was probably a year and a half...maybe 2 years. I was reminded of her today and so asked a mutual friend is she was still alive or whatever and got her cell number.
So I want to call her now, but what do I say? Should I even call her? I think I will because I'd love to talk to her again, but I'm not sure if it falls into the creepy category or not. We never really ended talking, just slowly stopped, but it was always on good terms, so it's the only awkward thing is the long period of time.
I'm thinking maybe try and text message first to initiate talking.
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Good luck.
Move on.
Actually, I have a similar situation as you do. However, she moved to LA and I'm still in the Pacific NW.
Originally posted by midwinter
You want to make a belated booty call?
Move on.
Let me guess. Your one of those people that doesn't actually enjoy the company of girls, your just looking for the most available ass.
Originally posted by ast3r3x
Let me guess. Your one of those people that doesn't actually enjoy the company of girls, your just looking for the most available ass.
You have guessed incredibly wrongly. But thank you for playing.
I'm suggesting that initiating a conversation again with a girl you haven't spoken to in 1.5 years is most likely going to register for her as, at the very least, some part booty call. It will also potentially register as confusing (why am I being contacted?) or desperate (on your part).
Dude, call her. cmooooon, peer pressure!
Originally posted by Giaguara
for those of you who think its a bad idea and she'd think you're a loser ... well what if it was a SHE who called you afrer 1,5 years??? would SHE be a loser then?
Yes. A booty call is a booty call.
Originally posted by Giaguara
for those of you who think its a bad idea and she'd think you're a loser ... well what if it was a SHE who called you afrer 1,5 years??? would SHE be a loser then?
Look, in a very real sense, most of us are losers. I wouldn't get too hung up on being socially awkward, so long as you're not actually antisocial (in a bad way).
Otherwise, I'd have to go kill myself.
Tried to call that girl tuesday...figured tuesday was a good time looked casual, but not like I wanted to do something. Friday night like a thursday call might have.
Cell number you've reached is temporarily not in service. So I tried again the following day, and nothing. Figure maybe that was a sign.
Just now she was on IM and so I messaged her and she gave me (without me asking) her new cell number. So beside from her jealous x-bf, everything worked out for the best.
I didn't have to come off as a creepy stalkerish, and I got what I wanted. Odd though since she hasn't been on in almost a year.
Originally posted by tonton
Cool beans! She obviously wants to keep in touch with you, which might mean a possibility... might not. But she's clearly not creeped out by you which is a great sign.
Did you mention that you'd "love to get together some time"?
No, I specifically didn't say that.
18:40:09 ast3r3x: hello
18:40:15 the girl: hey you
18:40:24 ast3r3x: how's it going
18:40:54 the girl: its going
18:40:57 ast3r3x: i actually tried to call u tuesday
18:41:02 the girl: no you didnt?!
18:41:08 ast3r3x: indeed i did
18:41:19 the girl: thats so cool
18:41:25 ast3r3x: i was cleaning my buddy list and found ur name, asked kristina about u, and she gave me ur cell
18:41:35 ast3r3x: ...said ur cell was out of service or something though
18:41:56 the girl: derek and i broke up ... so i had to get a new one ... xxx-xxxx
18:42:37 ast3r3x: well if you don't have a bf, and you don't have too many jealous stalkers, i think we should get together so we can catch up
18:42:48 ast3r3x: i don't think i've tlaked to you for over a year probably
18:43:02 the girl: probably ... ive hardly talked to anyone in that long
18:43:16 the girl: ... i do have jealous stalkers ... but id still like to hang out
18:44:18 ast3r3x: well you always had a boy or two who obsessed over u
18:44:26 the girl: riiight
18:44:59 ast3r3x: so are you in school, or working?
18:45:14 the girl: working for now... i need to get my shit toghether though
18:45:22 ast3r3x: where are you living?
18:45:44 the girl: i had an apartment with derek for a little ... i back home with mom now
18:46:37 ast3r3x: i have to go, im glad i caught you thought if i didn't have the right cell anymore
18:46:45 ast3r3x: when's a good time to call you to chill for a bit
18:47:01 the girl: uum, im off mondays and fridays, and weekends after three
18:47:31 the girl: cant wait till you call
18:47:36 ast3r3x: well i'll assume ur busy tomorrow night, so maybe this weekend or monday
18:47:43 the girl: sounds good
18:47:56 the girl: take care
18:48:00 ast3r3x: later rachel
Of course I want to call saturday, but maybe I'll wait to monday.
There are some things in life that go beyond the knowledge of even the closest of (real life) friends... and those are between you and a the lady friend. Don't spoil that which you don't even have yet. Work this shit out on your own and we will all wish you the best.