Ever thought that maybe starting off with her as friends could also introduce some of her friends into the picture too? Start off as friends and see how it goes. Friendships are stronger and last longer. The other "friends" you mentioned aren't friends...they're assholes.
<strong>Your friends sound like assholes. Find new friends.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Ditto. Change your definition of "10" to incorporate the traits that will lead to long-term happiness instead of jealousy and passive-aggressive withdrawal.
Not that i ever got to read the original post, but i totally agree with pscates. My friends often think i'm weird, but if somebody is pretty but stupid or a bitch, i _cannot_ find them attractive, no matter how much other people may drool over them.
You mean I?ve talking to a bunch of girls all this time?!?!
Now listen to me CAREFULLY!
You dump this girl and you dump her now! If a girl can?t make herself look pretty she?s NOT A GIRL! Find yourself a pretty girl. And if she likes you be nice to her, and then use her as a punching bag. Now, after you?re done softening her up, you tell her to get lost, and you move on. You?ll be better for it. Trust me.
I listened to my one of my friends in a similar sitiuation a long time ago. It's got to be one of the most stupid things I've done. Follow your heart. One way you may have regrets but, the other means you definitely will. There is never any way to be sure about someone ahead of time. By the time you do it's already too late. If you like her go with it.
One other thing.......I'd wait awhile before introducing her to your friends. Wait until you're good and solid. If they have negative opinions already it may not be a happy introduction.
I have similar situation when I was much younger. I don't go out in public with her and I never introduce her to my friends, knowing that they will diss me for dating someone that is not so pretty.
She confronted me about it and we broke up soon after. I still think about her sometimes. She is wonderful, cool, nice and she really care about me. I was being a jerk not realizing it at the time and now it is too late. I haven't met anyone even come close to the connection that I have with her for years afterwards.
If your friends don't accept her, change friends. A match is much harder to find than friends.
<strong>I agree with Sundae here. I've made my decision and I'm happy with it. I guess I'm not so solid with her yet (after less than 6 weeks of seeing eachother) and I know she's very sensitive about others' perceptions (even though she denies it).
Mr. KILLA, your senseless flamebait is better tried elsewhere. I won't be insulted or offended by your weak attempt at humor.
And my girlfriend does know how to make herself look attractive, very much so. She's got a great sense of style, and she carries herself well. She's got a great figure. And every time I look into her eyes, I feel I want to look more and more. And when I look at her lips I want to kiss them (and I do).
Her attractiveness is in her attitude, her confidence, her style and so much more. So she won't be gracing any magazine covers. So what. She'll be there in my heart and right there by my side to make me happy and to make me proud.</strong><hr></blockquote>
One thing is sure you love her, the rest should not matter. Be happy.
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Oh, and read the sig man...the sig...
<strong>Now if only I could get her to buy a Mac...</strong><hr></blockquote>
Wait... She's not a Mac user?! Shouldn't you have mentioned this before?! And here's everyone judging her on meaningless things like personality!
Congratulations, though, tonton. When it comes to things like this, be selfish. If it makes you happy, that's all that matters.
[quote]Originally posted by pscates:
<strong>Believe me, there is NOTHING uglier than a pretty girl who KNOWS she's pretty, and puts too much stock in it.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Except perhaps a pretty boy.
Out of interest, tonton, how many of your friends have girlfriends?
[ 04-29-2002: Message edited by: Belle ]</p>
<strong>A pretty boy who knows he's pretty is basically a girl.</strong><hr></blockquote>
To paraphrase: "If you have to act like a girl, why can't you act like a nice girl?"
[ 05-23-2002: Message edited by: Amorph ]</p>
<strong>Your friends sound like assholes. Find new friends.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Ditto. Change your definition of "10" to incorporate the traits that will lead to long-term happiness instead of jealousy and passive-aggressive withdrawal.
<strong>she's a liberal feminist, but an independent(ly) thinking one.
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One or the other Tonton, one or the other.
...but that's neither here nor there....
I would like to know your friends reaction seeing u with an ugly gal.
-robo
<img src="graemlins/bugeye.gif" border="0" alt="[Skeptical]" />
WTF !!!
You mean I?ve talking to a bunch of girls all this time?!?!
Now listen to me CAREFULLY!
You dump this girl and you dump her now! If a girl can?t make herself look pretty she?s NOT A GIRL! Find yourself a pretty girl. And if she likes you be nice to her, and then use her as a punching bag. Now, after you?re done softening her up, you tell her to get lost, and you move on. You?ll be better for it. Trust me.
<img src="graemlins/oyvey.gif" border="0" alt="[No]" /> <img src="graemlins/oyvey.gif" border="0" alt="[No]" /> <img src="graemlins/oyvey.gif" border="0" alt="[No]" />
mika.
One other thing.......I'd wait awhile before introducing her to your friends. Wait until you're good and solid. If they have negative opinions already it may not be a happy introduction.
[ 05-23-2002: Message edited by: jimmac ]</p>
I have similar situation when I was much younger. I don't go out in public with her and I never introduce her to my friends, knowing that they will diss me for dating someone that is not so pretty.
She confronted me about it and we broke up soon after. I still think about her sometimes. She is wonderful, cool, nice and she really care about me. I was being a jerk not realizing it at the time and now it is too late. I haven't met anyone even come close to the connection that I have with her for years afterwards.
If your friends don't accept her, change friends. A match is much harder to find than friends.
<strong>I agree with Sundae here. I've made my decision and I'm happy with it. I guess I'm not so solid with her yet (after less than 6 weeks of seeing eachother) and I know she's very sensitive about others' perceptions (even though she denies it).
Mr. KILLA, your senseless flamebait is better tried elsewhere. I won't be insulted or offended by your weak attempt at humor.
And my girlfriend does know how to make herself look attractive, very much so. She's got a great sense of style, and she carries herself well. She's got a great figure. And every time I look into her eyes, I feel I want to look more and more. And when I look at her lips I want to kiss them (and I do).
Her attractiveness is in her attitude, her confidence, her style and so much more. So she won't be gracing any magazine covers. So what. She'll be there in my heart and right there by my side to make me happy and to make me proud.</strong><hr></blockquote>
One thing is sure you love her, the rest should not matter. Be happy.
I am here waiting for the girl I need.
1) White skin
2) Black hair
3) Black eyes
4) Sexy
5) Thin
6) Funny
7) Intelligent enough to discuss with me.
8) Dumb enough to never win an argument against me.