Do (did) you, date exclusively within your ethnicity?

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  • Reply 41 of 82
    giaguaragiaguara Posts: 2,724member
    Randycat, as my side note - I have lived in Europe that was mainly white locals (err, 'latin' europeans with 'other' europeans as minority) and poorly and newly intergrated (mostly north) africans (the last 20-30 years) and some chinese (last 10 years). Most white, even in big cities, date other white, locals or 'other whites', and nearly as the only other socially acceptable non-european alternative. north americans. Withing that kind of society, there is a HUGE amount of women (and men) that aren't 'enough attractive' to the local males. They rarely consider e.g. african males as still in many cities the social pressure is too strong against it. They see most africans as muslims (=bad), poorly hygienic, poor and little litterate, even if they were educated. Many of them lack the experience in the local habits (any small gestures etc), which doesn't make it easier - this especially among those who emigrated as adult (and are poor). The asians are there so newly arrived, like under 10 years mostly, that they are generally a really strong community, and many of them don't even look on white women (i don't want to generalize, but among those who look at me there, the asians are really not the first ones). Many of them are at least considered to have some 'too chinese habits' whatever it means (something mostly bad like eating rats and ants and spitting on the floor etc). The white women too old, too un-beautiful, too educated to local mens tastes, too old, too fat, just left as their man or bf found a younger (or more pretty) girl ... they feel so ALONE and most of them would just want the all non-(local) whites approaching them to go away without any further consideration.



    That isn't any better in mainly white europe with even smaller percentage of other (lets say somalians, russians, eastern europeans, vietnamese and then anything in various percentage, in total the 'non-local-white' being under 2% ). The women and men still rant about how lonely they are there (when most of their friends start to be socially stabilized / in couple etc). I've been joking for ages for them (women) to get a chinese man as there are like a 100 million chinese men that difficultly will get married in china due to the unsuccesful one-child-policy.





    I like seeing any race mix couples. Generally the Asian seem to be shorter or more thinly consituted, with smaller bones and stucture etc. This could scare some of the white women simply because compared to a man more petite than her, she looks huger and fatter (which most white women don't like). I like japanese as i said but i've met really few of them in my life and compared to most of them i look huge and feel fat, but if the guy was nice and liked me i wouldn't care.



    I think i have seen less pale white (german or scandi style) men with colorful women (latinas, blacks, dark asians etc) than asian men with white, latin or black women. Somehow those white white males look good with spicy women that make them get to be more man. I don't know if the "non-macho" charachter (stereotype) of asian men is one of the things making them less attractive. I guess Chinese is more attractive than mid-eastern. (sterotypes like muslim-terrorist-fanatic etc) Hm. Maybe it will be enough to find "the one" and not date hundreds of people. I can sure think the japanese, mexican, brazilian, eskimese etc guys are pretty but at the moment i'm not interested on looking any closer on any new males.
  • Reply 42 of 82
    satchmosatchmo Posts: 2,699member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by BRussell

    Compared to Asians, White guys are tall in the right places. If you know what I mean.



    How would you know?

    But I think Randycat said he was 5'11"...now what if that white guy was 5'4"?
  • Reply 43 of 82
    giaguaragiaguara Posts: 2,724member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by BRussell

    Compared to Asians, White guys are tall in the right places. If you know what I mean.



    That's the stereotype... asians have smaller than whites and blacks have bigger than whites. So if women chose their partner according to size of the little brother, everyone would choose a black guy. I've never seen naked asians or blacks (except on porn sites) so i don't know how true or untrue it is. I know some girls who dated Chinese who complained about the dimensions - either it is really so different or they were just rude. Or they could choose a finn - they think their d*cks are the biggest of all the europeans (never seen one even on a porn site). But i've never heard of a gay complaining about the size (in a white - asian couple). Hm.



    If the women choose the guy according to the size, they might as well get a cat and go to a dildo shop and get a 18".
  • Reply 44 of 82
    giaguaragiaguara Posts: 2,724member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by satchmo

    How would you know?

    But I think Randycat said he was 5'11"...now what if that white guy was 5'4"?




    my ex was 5'4". i am 5'9". and he was 9 y older than me. i am just too tall (& not searching).
  • Reply 45 of 82
    toweltowel Posts: 1,479member
    Just out of curiousity, RandyCat99, do you have to beat the Asian chicks off with a stick, or do you find it hard to get with girls of any complexion?
  • Reply 46 of 82
    randycat99randycat99 Posts: 1,919member
    ...and that's the big rub of it all. I don't really find Asian women that attractive (after being exposed to everything but for the better part of my life). So I've never tried too hard to land one (because deep down inside I really don't want to). I believe I could with a good level of confidence, but frankly I have no idea about it or motivation to. You'd think the opportunity would have come up by now since I'm practically surrounded by them here in Westminster. I see them giving the glance in the coffee shop. I could make a move, but then something inside me says, "This is the wrong thing to do if it is just to confirm something or just as a form of edification/affirmation. Don't do it unless you mean it."



    So here I am... I'll go after a white woman or a latina. They could be tall or short, medium build, even a bit on the chubby side is still good for me. I like a cute face and pretty hair, but to be fair, "cute" still entails a wiiiiiide range for me. So I'm far from being overly picky.
  • Reply 47 of 82
    tulkastulkas Posts: 3,744member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by Randycat99

    ...and that's the big rub of it all. I don't really find Asian women that attractive (after being exposed to everything but for the better part of my life). So I've never tried too hard to land one (because deep down inside I really don't want to). I believe I could with a good level of confidence, but frankly I have no idea about it or motivation to. You'd think the opportunity would have come up by now since I'm practically surrounded by them here in Westminster. I see them giving the glance in the coffee shop. I could make a move, but then something inside me says, "This is the wrong thing to do if it is just to confirm something or just as a form of edification/affirmation. Don't do it unless you mean it."



    So here I am... I'll go after a white woman or a latina. They could be tall or short, medium build, even a bit on the chubby side is still good for me. I like a cute face and pretty hair, but to be fair, "cute" still entails a wiiiiiide range for me. So I'm far from being overly picky.




    Quite a predicament you are in. Can't date white women, cuz they don't find you attractive, can't date asian women because you don't find them attractive.
  • Reply 48 of 82
    tulkastulkas Posts: 3,744member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by tonton

    A few weeks ago, I went to the beach, and the changing room had absolutely no partitions. Normally, I avoid looking at other men in changing rooms, but it was impossible in this circumstance.



    There was one fat, short guy (I had noticed him before with an extremely hot blonde chick, possibly Russian -- go figure) and he had a miniscule pecker, I mean like it was as small as a mosquito bite, and there was another guy whose soft schlong was hanging half way to his knees. Yes, some Asians are well endowed. But many are tiny, too.



    However, based on first hand reports of some of my female friends, the stereotype does indeed hold true *in general*. And that generalization may scare away some white girls. Sad but true.




    Makes sense, as they are physically smaller overall, in general. The scottish and jamacian in me must make up for it, as I am just over 6ft in height and haven't had any complaints in other areas
  • Reply 49 of 82
    liquidrliquidr Posts: 884member
    I'm a hybrid, so does this concept of dating within ethnicity keep dating only hybrids, hybrids of only my specific ethnic bkgds, only people of either ethnic bkgd.



    Aw screw it, as a good friend of mine says, "we should all f--k til we're all grey"
  • Reply 50 of 82
    eugeneeugene Posts: 8,254member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by Scott

    I hope my boss doesn't read this but his kid is ... not good looking. Part 'merican part chinese.



    Which side is Chinese? ...
  • Reply 51 of 82
    eugeneeugene Posts: 8,254member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by satchmo

    How would you know?

    But I think Randycat said he was 5'11"...now what if that white guy was 5'4"?




    Probably wouldn't make too much of a difference...I'm 5'10" and.......
  • Reply 52 of 82
    liquidrliquidr Posts: 884member
    Stereotypes...

    I'm part Asian and feel that I'm pretty smart, and that seems to be a stereotype that Asians are intelligent, You know what, I've met some really dumb asians.



    As for attraction, I favor petite white girls, but if they're cute and I can talk to them doesn't really matter what their skin color is. I'd prefer moderately tatooed, 8)
  • Reply 53 of 82
    aquafireaquafire Posts: 2,758member
    Is Blonde an ethnic group ?
  • Reply 54 of 82
    aquafireaquafire Posts: 2,758member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by tonton

    No, but it's a stereotype.



    What ever happened to the Monotypes? Did they get "ethnically cleansed" ?
  • Reply 55 of 82
    andersanders Posts: 6,523member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by aquafire

    What ever happened to the Monotypes? Did they get "ethnically cleansed" ?



    Hmm. that got me thinking. Whats "stereo" about stereotypes?
  • Reply 56 of 82
    liquidrliquidr Posts: 884member
    My fav stereotype, and the one I tend to believe is the "hybrid vigor" theory. Most mix people I meet seem to be better looking to me than a full blood. Maybe I'm biased being a half-breed. But I've seen alot of hot mulatto and Amerasian girls. The blending seems to mask any bad features of either race and accent the good ones.
  • Reply 57 of 82
    aquafireaquafire Posts: 2,758member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by LiquidR

    My fav stereotype, and the one I tend to believe is the "hybrid vigor" theory.The blending seems to mask any bad features of either race and accent the good ones.



    As opposed to "chinless " wonders.



    just as an aside, I read that the ancient Romans used to consider " german soap " made of beech resin & goat fat, the best hair dyer there ever was..



    It apparently makes very dark hair go redish to gold blonde.



    As for me, I'm a bitsa...





    like in bitsa dis bitsa dat..
  • Reply 58 of 82
    trumptmantrumptman Posts: 16,454member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by LiquidR

    Stereotypes...

    I'm part Asian and feel that I'm pretty smart, and that seems to be a stereotype that Asians are intelligent, You know what, I've met some really dumb asians.



    As for attraction, I favor petite white girls, but if they're cute and I can talk to them doesn't really matter what their skin color is. I'd prefer moderately tatooed, 8)




    I think tattoos are gross. In fact being a white guy, about the most unattractive thing I can imagine is a crappy blond dye job, cigarette smoking, tattooed white woman drinking from a beer CAN. She could be physically fine but the "accessories" in this case just gross me out.



    Nick
  • Reply 59 of 82
    gizzmonicgizzmonic Posts: 511member
    Just a small point: Hispanic is not a race! It means "from a Spanish speaking background." There are many people in Cuba, Puerto Rico, Mexico etc that speak only Spanish, yet come from 100% African roots. These people are considered Hispanic (at least by the US Census).



    Since I work with refugee and immigrants, it's kind of a sticking point for me. Also politically correct people who will say "Hispanic" or "Spanish" when they mean "Mexican."



    NOTE: Here in Texas, bigots often refer to all Spanish-speaking peoples as "Mexicans" or "Mess-kins." But the PC backlash against this is so bad, that it's considered tacky to refer to people from Mexico as Mexicans.



    Racially, most people from Latin American countries are a mixture of European white and Asiatic native americans. "Latina/Latino" is kinda misleading too-I mean, I'm half Sicilian and nobody would call me a "Latino."



    As for dating "within my race," I've had a Brazilian girl friend (she was beautiful and "exotic", but technically, 100% portuguese and white) and a few flings with Asian (Japanese/Chinese type) girls, although my current girlfriend is whitebread, German background. I generally don't find black women attractive, with plenty of specific exceptions...
  • Reply 60 of 82
    randycat99randycat99 Posts: 1,919member
    Quote:

    Originally posted by Tulkas

    Quite a predicament you are in. Can't date white women, cuz they don't find you attractive, can't date asian women because you don't find them attractive.



    Yep, a fine day for a bullet in the head, I'd say. Thank you for all the pain, lovely white women...
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