Do (did) you, date exclusively within your ethnicity?
I still think the vast majority still do.
Well,... I may be presumtuous here since, I can only tell by the colour of ones skin ( i.e. there may be an Irish dating a German and you couldn't tell).
The union of two people with visibly different looks has spawned (for lack of a better word), a whole new look. For instance, there are quite a few Asian women with Caucasian men (or vice versa). I know many couples of this combination and their children are quite simply beautiful.
I guess one's environment can determine a lot too. I don't usually date within my race. Not sure if it has to do with my personal un-attraction to my own kind or that here in Toronto, we have so many people of different ethnicities.
Well,... I may be presumtuous here since, I can only tell by the colour of ones skin ( i.e. there may be an Irish dating a German and you couldn't tell).
The union of two people with visibly different looks has spawned (for lack of a better word), a whole new look. For instance, there are quite a few Asian women with Caucasian men (or vice versa). I know many couples of this combination and their children are quite simply beautiful.
I guess one's environment can determine a lot too. I don't usually date within my race. Not sure if it has to do with my personal un-attraction to my own kind or that here in Toronto, we have so many people of different ethnicities.
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As having lived a big part of my life in (various) Europe, my mostly likely answer to the questions is "yes (just within my own ethnicities)". But if i'd be casually dating now i won't dislike seeing japanese or latin (american)s or just mixed people.
I usually like the way mixed kids look. My sisters are both very pretty. One sister married a Quebecois of partly Italian descent and her kids look mainly white, but have subtle asian features. The 3 year old is going to be a lady killer.
Any other half-breeds around?
Nick
Originally posted by Tulkas
(Chinese, Scottish and Jamaican).
you have three parents?
I have only dated within my own skin color, but not for a lack of trying. There are so many beautiful women of all races.
But then, my husband is 1/8 (maybe only 1/16) Choctow Indian. Does that count?
For my kids, I would be more concerned that they share a common faith (religion) with their prospective spouse than any superficial physical trait.
It's true what they say: those chics from New York are from another world.
I did have a Parisian girlfriend for a year or two though. She's the only one I would consider a different 'race'.
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Originally posted by tonton
My daughter
She's half Chinese and half lily white American. This photo was taken about a month ago. She'll be five next month.
She looks adorable. I guess you've just disproved Randycat99's theory that white chicks don't date Asian men.
Originally posted by tonton
My daughter
She's half Chinese and half lily white American. This photo was taken about a month ago. She'll be five next month.
She is pretty.
Originally posted by satchmo
She looks adorable. I guess you've just disproved Randycat99's theory that white chicks don't date Asian men.
You may find that amusing, but it is a harsh, harsh reality that I live every single day. Do you really think one example means its a free for all of white women on Asian men? A hundred? A thousand? It's still a rare, rare thing (speaking of life in the States, of course). It is a very real discrimination. It may comfort you to discount it over the simplest of anectodal evidence, but I assure you I have a lifetime of experience to say otherwise. The point here is not to present something that compels you to dismiss it because it makes you feel uncomfortable if it really does exist, but to speak out to all women out there that Chinese men are human just like anyone else. Don't discount them as partners outright, and check yourself if you find yourself dismissing them as potentially more than "just a person that makes a good friend".
Originally posted by tonton
I think it's more likely that most Asian guys choose to exclusively date Asian girls, either because they are more attracted to them, or because it's what's expected. I don't think it has as much to do with the girls not liking Asian guys. Keep trying!
You do see a lot more white boy-asian chick couples [points at self] than the other way around. But I agree with you that much of the reason is self-selection. Most "ethnic" men I know are much more concerned about dating within their group than the woman. Part of that is for identity reasons, I think - in Korean society, for example, the first-born male is the heir, and is still often treated as such. The non-Korean heir that a mixed marriage would produce is almost unthinkable. Part of it is also, I think, based on expectation they have of female behavior. Korean men, again for instance, generally want a very particular sort of Korean woman, and most white chicks just can't play the part. To American eyes, that sterotype of female behavior seems domineering and restrictive, so Korean-American women seem to need little encouragement to try to escape it.
Like most "immigrant" behaviors I think these start to break down after a couple of generations. Asian-Americans have by far the highest rate of inter-racial marriage of any group in the US, both men and woman. Neat link. Check out the difference for Korean-American women vs. Chinese-American women, including US-born (page 2). I wonder how much of that has to due with the expected role of women in the two cultures.
Originally posted by tonton
I don't think it has as much to do with the girls not liking Asian guys. Keep trying!
You better believe it is. Don't cavalierly tell me to just "keep trying". I've "run the race" far too many times, and even though I clearly crossed the finish line first, the "winner" is invariably someone else of more "attractive" skin color. That's just the way things are (unless you are incredibly rich, incredibly good looking, or incredibly popular, in which case anything is possible).
Originally posted by Randycat99
You may find that amusing, but it is a harsh, harsh reality that I live every single day. Do you really think one example means its a free for all of white women on Asian men? A hundred? A thousand? It's still a rare, rare thing (speaking of life in the States, of course). It is a very real discrimination. It may comfort you to discount it over the simplest of anectodal evidence, but I assure you I have a lifetime of experience to say otherwise. The point here is not to present something that compels you to dismiss it because it makes you feel uncomfortable if it really does exist, but to speak out to all women out there that Chinese men are human just like anyone else. Don't discount them as partners outright, and check yourself if you find yourself dismissing them as potentially more than "just a person that makes a good friend".
In most parts of europe the asians aren't so common (yet).
i like especially japanese guys, they are pretty. i've never dated one though. (and latins and generally 'mixed' are cool too.)
if i'm (partly of somewhere, partly of elsewhere, and 30-35 % of "unknown origin") 'yurrupean' and with an 'americano', does that count as 'different-race' couple?