I kinda have to disagree with all of you in that I don't honk there is any one way to get girls especially American girls because they tend to be more open minded and want different things from different guys. For example, I am currently chatting with a girl who likes a former inmate and there are others who have had kids with abusive bfs who just left them on the streets with nothing but their kids and broken memories of past relationships. See I am no expert in this as I have not dated a lot but thing is I have come across many girls and I find them to be a bit bitchy and they will never reveal their true feelings to you if they don't know u, even a girl like u for example, she may not say it so ur better off either asking her out or asking for another persons advice on what she thinks of u cuz if u leave her guessing wrt it intentions she will eventually lose interest and then ur chance is gone, you might as well make ur move while you have the chance, also girls like to mess around with guys heads a lot, this i think is something natural and is probably why guys tend to get scared around girls because they are afraid of being judged and going crazy in front of a girl because the truth is, partially you are responsible but partially she makes you feel like that as a kind of a test to see how u react and whether you can keep your composure in such situations but who knows maybe a girl likes it when u get shy and embarrassed in front of her because It shows how much u like her, I think there is. Big difference also with girls you know and don't, like if u see girls on the street checking u out or some random girl smiling it u, it's prolly cuz she likes something about u, like ur looks, ur body language or just her intuition indicating something positive about you as in either your body language or your looks, just an immediate judgement that is more externally visible that is without thinking too much really, but when u wanna know a girl better like in college or something, probably her initial liking maybe something external like looks or body language as mentioned earlier but if you wanna win her over, what efforts you take to make the relationship wrk is more important, how much further you can convince her that you are meant to be with each other, for example I know, I can just sense that girls hav ba good first impression, like they find something about me which they like, could be either my good looks or my affable nature but I have never got into a relationship because there are too many barriers Whigs come in the way thereafter which prevent me from taking it further haven the connection is lost, my suggestion to you or any guy out there is to try and seek a connection like an emotional connection with a girl, that is the best way to win her over, as far as American girls go though, yes they do need a lot of personal space and not they don't like pushy men, that's how far I can go with that, I mean, it's probably not untrue that women like jerks but I mean it's not very clearly defined, these so called bad asses seem interesting to girls and it is because badassws seem to have no interest in them or just don't show it and seen as independent and confident by these girls, well it's not fair on the nice guys I agree but Biologically women are built to find the best mate and even though a nice guy could be one, he cannot be immediately perceived by the opposite sex as being so, therefore I guess my suggestion to nice guys is, fuk all the advice of becoming a jerk, jerks are jerks, be a nice guy, it's just that you gotta convince the girl that being a nice guy is a good thing and not do the things I said like be pushy or get I tot whir personal space, at the same time, to make up for the fact that u are probably gonna start off at a disadvantage wrt jerks if ur a nice guy, u can make up for it in other waysike being nice to her and treating her well and if u have talents, try to utilize it and do interestong stuff with it life and believe me the girls will come, as I said I have not been very successful with women either because I'm not a trier not wil girls at least for two reasons, one is, i tend to dislike them a have quite a string vias simply because they are biased themselves and their assessment of men is pretty screwed up, in a world where men only want sex out of women, girls can be as biased or irrational in their choices as they wanna be idc, but see the rules of civilization are changing more girls have higher sexual desire and more men have need for bonding and relationships so the whole thing becomes a lot more complicated at least here in America I think where modernization is high and people are very open minded however I do feel that between women and men. I will strongly favor a man if I had to make a new friend or divulge some very important or secretive information because I don't trust girls, you know, today sweet Beth, tomorrow hormonal and bitxhy Beth, who knows what to expect with girls, they are just too emotional and not reliable enough and to add to that, the seem irrational, illogical and seem selfish as well, personally though, given a choice, I can like any girl despite having these traits, if she were to like me at some level, as fiends or maybe more but I'm sorry to say here in Americal, whether it is because I am Indian or because the girls here are just plain rude because they wanna be, I don't think I have got much positive reaction but let me say, I can say they are racist because to be honest I find the girls here are far more friendly and forthcoming than in my home country where u think u find nice girls, bit the truth is, they are a lot more bitchy eapwcially like the Ukrra modern western wannabe girls, damn they're so irritating as opposed to the sweet culturally renowned shy girl with strong family values Who is actually very nice on the outside or on the inside but would any modern open minded guy go for her, I'm not sure about that but what I can say is...overall American gals are Better than Indian gals, all things considered because they just are...but still I don't think it is enough for me to say that girls are good, girls are nice and I would wanna be with one for relationship or marriage because there are just too many differences and too many things going against them than for them, in my eyes at least and therefore as far as I can tell, if you are single and hopeful about getting a gf, be a smart guy, stay single, flirt and have fun with girls as much as you want because the moment you get into relationship, you have lost your freedom and a part of your independent view of the world and life around you in general and life will never be the same again. Lol. Overall rating for guys 9/10, for girls 4/10, guys win hands down, thanks for listening folks. Bye. :-)
Well, from my 15 years of experience as a UK expat living in NYC here's my take on it.
The short version is that it's kinda like prostitution but you pay for it in installments and you actually may never get what you paid for either.
The long version is that a) over here in America you 'date' several at one time then, if it's all going well, you have the 'exclusivity' talk. Yeah weird I know but bear with me. It's also like going to an interview. Not as casual as it is say in my home country UK.
You have to basically woo them with your net worth etc. It's not about who you are but what you have (achieved) This can be quite challenging if you are not on say 6 figures etc.
The rules are kinda archaic but they seem to work for many Americans. The third date rule is kinda odd (to me) It's on or after the third date that you both may decide to have sex. Um like who's counting? LOL! Don't be surprised if, like me, you have a plethora of 1st and 2nd dates then nothing! Zilch! Nada! You are history because something you said or did didn't match up to her list of thing you must be to be date-worthy.
I'm not trying to be all anti-American women. But I've just started going out with (aka BF/gf I'm the UK) with a lovely German woman who likes me for my character and values. I must say its a breath of fresh air.
Once you go Euro The true love starts to flow
Good luck
And make sure your credit card balance is low cuz your gonna need every penny you've got.
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relationship, you have lost your freedom and a part of your independent view of the world and life around you in general and life will never be the same again. Lol. Overall rating for guys 9/10, for girls 4/10, guys win hands down, thanks for listening folks. Bye. :-)
The short version is that it's kinda like prostitution but you pay for it in installments and you actually may never get what you paid for either.
The long version is that a) over here in America you 'date' several at one time then, if it's all going well, you have the 'exclusivity' talk. Yeah weird I know but bear with me.
It's also like going to an interview. Not as casual as it is say in my home country UK.
You have to basically woo them with your net worth etc. It's not about who you are but what you have (achieved)
This can be quite challenging if you are not on say 6 figures etc.
The rules are kinda archaic but they seem to work for many Americans.
The third date rule is kinda odd (to me)
It's on or after the third date that you both may decide to have sex. Um like who's counting? LOL!
Don't be surprised if, like me, you have a plethora of 1st and 2nd dates then nothing! Zilch! Nada! You are history because something you said or did didn't match up to her list of thing you must be to be date-worthy.
I'm not trying to be all anti-American women.
But I've just started going out with (aka BF/gf I'm the UK) with a lovely German woman who likes me for my character and values.
I must say its a breath of fresh air.
Once you go Euro
The true love starts to flow
Good luck
And make sure your credit card balance is low cuz your gonna need every penny you've got.
Peace